Saying “No!” is one of the most important skills we can develop as human beings. It allows us to silence the noise so that we can focus on what matters. Saying “no” takes two different forms. The first form is saying “no” to others, the other is saying “no” to ourselves.
Saying “no” to others is easy when you don’t know or respect the other person. After all it wouldn’t be very wise to listen to or follow a stranger who you don’t respect. Some could argue that doing so would even be a bit dangerous. Saying “yes” to an individual is usually a sign of respect or trust. So how do we say no to someone we both trust and respect?
The short and simple answer to this question is over communication. It is important that the person you are denying knows the reason behind it. If you don’t take the time to share your reason for saying “no” they may end up thinking you don’t respect them or don’t trust them. Overcommunicating doesn’t only mean sharing why you don’t want to partake in a certain action, but it also means sharing your reasoning ahead of time.
We suggest you share your reasoning with people before they even make a request of you. This way people won’t be shocked when you don’t act as they request. Doing this makes you proactive. A proactive approach means you deny an offer before its even made.